When a tool turns into a bludgeon — I once knew a lady who experienced excruciating guilt. She placed unfair expectations upon herself and struggled to set reasonable boundaries. It’s always ethical to exercise caution before offering anything resembling advice, particularly with a vulnerable person. She once told me that she asked herself “What would Alison do?” when…

Part 1 — Peter Pan, Prince Charmless and The Usual Suspects — For Part 2 Click Here In the few months I spent on dating apps in my late 40s, I got to know quite a few men through a lot of messages, emails and phone calls. And getting to know them is why I declined to date most of them. Here’s…

5 Fast, Simple & Important Tweaks To Boost Online Visibility — With just a few tweaks and a little understanding of SEOs, Titles, Alt Text, Tags and Kickers (and the dreaded Twitter), you can quickly and easily make your posts more accessible on Medium. Nobody enjoys self marketing. But if you’re not following even these simple steps, you’re not doing even…

A Two Minute Rant from Your Gobby Glaswegian — You just don’t know when your last moment will be, so YoU sHoUlD bE kInD to intolerable, entitled fuckmuppets. Killing Us With Kindness Being Kind, Polite, Nice and Non Judgemental Gets Women Killedmedium.com Let’s stop pouring that sanctimonious syrup. Tolerating twatbangles encourages more twatbanglery — which in turn makes everyone’s life that little bit worse.

I’ll Give You a Hint — Abortion Rights — It’s not because Social Media has been proven to be bad for your mental health. Get Your Kids Off The Internet It’s Poisonmedium.com It’s not because it has allowed paedophilia and child abuse to run rampant. Whistleblower: Facebook's response to child abuse 'inadequate' By Angus Crawford BBC News A former Facebook employee has told US authorities the company's efforts to remove child…www.bbc.com

A Lament — Sometimes my brain and my body accept the languid ensnarement of middle aged torpor. Content to sleep and to dream; to remember and to write. Satisfied to wander hazy pathways fashioned from the tranquil reminiscences of times long past. And then there are those days where I feel the full…

Lessons learned long ago — It’s a well known truism that you can judge a person’s character by how they treat those who don’t have power. I’m generally decent to those around me, it’s my default position. It’s not a particularly praiseworthy trait, it’s just who I am. …

Your Efforts to Retrain Me Have Failed — Google AI leaves a very great deal indeed to be desired. It often misunderstands me, doesn’t recognise my voice, deletes lists I use, adds lists I don’t want and didn’t request, and generally makes what should be easy difficult — with extra fun filled glitches. So why do you use…

Only You Can Choose to Put Your Burden Down and Retrain your Brain — I had no idea how many of you were holding tight to the cozy comfort of hating your parents for things they did decades ago — until Medium. There is a niche for a relentless wailing and scrabbling for top position in the oppression pyramid, based on decisions parents made…